It can be hard to navigate what’s “okay” to do the second time around and everyone will surely be sharing their opinion with you. Remember, it’s your wedding and you get to decide what you want and what’s important to you. You likely know what worked and what didn’t from your first wedding, so youhave a clearer picture of how you’d like to truly make this ceremony your own.
Did you wear a big, white, princess dress the first time and want to go with a cocktail dress this time around? Do it! Did you elope last time and really want your princess moment? Now’s your chance! The only rule we’re passing along is don’t wear the same dress you wore the first time.
If you have children you’d like to include, there are many ways to go about it. Depending on their ages they could be flower girls or ring bearers, do a reading, or be the best man or maid of honor. The lighting of a unity candle is a great way to include them in the ceremony, and some couples opt to exchange a jewelry piece with the children after the ring ceremony vowing to love and honor them as though they were your own.
One thing to keep in mind is your guests. Chances are, most of your guests will have attended your first wedding as well. If they joined you on a destination wedding a few years ago, it’s not fair to expect them to do it again. And they likely bought you a wedding gift for your shower so it’s common to forego that tradition the second time around.
At the end of the day, this is your opportunity to relax some staunch traditions or incorporate things you weren’t able to before. Make the day your own. And however you choose to do that, it’s sure to the be perfect start to your new life together.