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How to Cope with Family Conflict on Your Wedding Day


While your friends and family may say your wedding day is all about you, the reality is that sometimes our friends and family want at least certain aspects to be about them. Unfortunately, a level of drama at a wedding is to be expected.  The most we can hope to do is be prepared and have a plan to attempt to mitigate when it arises.  Identifying potential issues well in advance can help things run smoothly when the day arrives.

We’ve gathered a few tips to consider when working out your wedding day details:

  • Don’t be afraid to tell your vendors about any potential issues amongst guests. Your vendors will be working closely with you and have the experience to anticipate any potential challenges and help smooth things over.
  • If you have family members who absolutely will NOT be in the same space together, be sure to let your photographer know. They’ll be sure not to include them on the shot list together.
  • Consider your seating arrangements. If you have family strife, leaving an open seating plan is probably not a good idea.  Having assigned seating arrangements will help ensure no one ends up near each other.
  • It’s not a bad idea to communicate your concerns with the offending guest before the wedding day. Discuss your expectations for behavior and let them know any rash behavior will not be tolerated.  It’s not an easy conversation to have, but it will get any grievances out in the open before they have serious consequences for your big day.
  • Of course, you always have the option of not inviting the potential trouble makers. If you truly believe they will ruin your day, perhaps leave them off the guest list altogether.

Whatever the outcome, know you aren’t alone.  Wedding Day family drama is extremely common, and couples find a way to persevere and have the day of their dreams.  All that matters is that you and your soon-to-be-spouse are in this thing together.



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